“I’m Not a Victim. Please See Me as You See Other Animals.”

  • By Karen Nowak
  • 20 Apr, 2016

What Rescue Animals Would Like You to Know...

These were the words of wisdom that my dog Moxie, originally known as Noni, spoke to me well into our relationship. Moxie was a
Portuguese Water Dog (PWD). What set her apart was that she was born with everything the breed didn’t want. She was improperly coated, had short legs, and a unique head. Some felt she was an embarrassment to the breed and should be euthanized. 

I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.

“I can’t heal if you keep calling me a rescued animal that was abused.”

I felt my husband and I could offer her a home filled with love. I learned early on with Moxie that our resolve would be tested. Saying she had separation anxiety was an understatement. Moxie also drooled profusely, as if a faucet had been turned on. Tethering her was out of the
question—she would chew through almost anything in record time.

It took months before she would look at us. I treated her like my other dogs, or so I thought. It would be a few years into our relationship before she let me know that wasn’t true. 

I was given the information of what trainers had done in the name of trying to break her habits. I had a hard time forgetting what I had been told. She was often left in a cage alone. When she chewed at the cage two large dogs were placed on both sides of her who became ferocious
towards her if she tried to chew. Moxie had very few teeth left when she came to us at the age of six.

Moxie’s anxiety had nowhere to go except inside, which manifested as the profuse drooling. Moxie was never tied or caged again and she came
with me and my other dogs on many horseback rides through the woods.

She did progress in her separation anxiety. Progressing to doing well as long as her friends were with her.  I repeatedly told her I believed in her to find the answer, and she did. I believe it was the first time anyone had said they believed in her and was proud of her exactly as she was.
I told her of the wisdom on her part that it took to create a world she could tolerate and live in. I also asked her to teach me about that world. I did not tell her she was okay now and could let it go. She would find that truth on her own.

We began to notice an abnormality in her tongue and how it hung out of her mouth. Moxie was diagnosed with a malignant tumor on the roof of her mouth. It was difficult not to feel sorry for what this dog had been through and what she had now been dealt. I knew my sympathy served no purpose. It wasn’t what she needed from me. Thus began my search for how I could best support her.
I was guided to take her to a homeopathic veterinarian who understood that I would not ask Moxie to endure traditional attempts at treatment.
She would live out her life without being asked to endure that. Nothing else would be done to her. She would live it freely for four more years.

I hadn’t noticed up until that point that when introducing Moxie to anyone, the words, “this is my abused dog with cancer,” always found its way
into the conversation. This kind, homeopathic vet gently said to me on one of our visits, “ she is not your abused dog with cancer. She is your beautiful dog.”

It was after that when I asked Moxie how she wanted me to refer to her and to think of her. She reminded me about how I said I would treat her
like my other dogs. She just wanted to be my dog. I was humbled, to say the least. It was after that conversation and others I had with her that I came to realize that, by referring to her as the sum of her experiences, I was keeping alive what she had lived through. I was confusing her with her experience.

In looking deeply into why I was doing that, I had felt I was honoring her experience. Making sure that everyone knew I had saved her. I had
made it about me. Something I asked her to forgive me for.

This is what Moxie shared:
• I am a dog. Please see me that way. Then the
experience can fade for me.
• I am not being abused now; I am not an
abused dog.
• I feel your pity and it worries me. I wonder
what is wrong with me.
• Please don’t see me as a victim it does me no
good. It was an experience and that’s over,
now that I am with you.
• Understand I need time to know myself as
who I really am. Please see me that way, too.
• Love me without pity or anger about my
experience.
• Believe in me.

Moxie taught me to see her as the whole being that she was, and to treat her that way, so she could live it. That is a gift I could give her, and did.
She taught me that anger serves no one, least of all her. For Moxie I learned to let go so she could live in the present.

In closing, if you ever have the privilege of caring for a rescued or abused animal, or one that is viewed as less than perfect in any way, don’t confuse letting go and seeing them as whole beings with them letting go of all behavior learned during their experience. It is their choice what they can and can’t do. That is something they have not experienced up to the time you received them—choice.

Love them unconditionally; do see them as whole beings, not merely as the result of their experience
or their condition. And wait as long as it takes for them to learn they have choices and that not everything is done to them.
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Only then could I understand it was judgments I made, and the perspective I took that kept me in emotional pain about the difference.

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Finding lost animals is wrought with fear, anxiety, panic and lack of control.

If the animal has escaped to go out on a jaunt it could include joy on their side not on yours. There are as many variables, emotions, and situations as there are animals.

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Portuguese Water Dog (PWD). What set her apart was that she was born with everything the breed didn’t want. She was improperly coated, had short legs, and a unique head. Some felt she was an embarrassment to the breed and should be euthanized. 

I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.
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By Karen Nowak 11 Jul, 2017
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By Karen Nowak 13 Feb, 2017
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When I was asked that question I thought back to the death my horse, Chris, to find the answer.

Her death had left me emotionally devastated. I wasn’t aware of all she had been in my life. Without conditions. The hurt seemed stronger than losing humans I had been close to. It wasn’t until the loss of my parents, that I was able to experience the difference.

Only then could I understand it was judgments I made, and the perspective I took that kept me in emotional pain about the difference.

Chris and I had come together at a pivotal time of personal growth and change. No human knew how insecure I felt on the inside during that time of my life.

I matured in many ways on her back. She had my heart and supported me, as I matured into an adult with a federal job and a mortgage.

I became more confident in many areas of my life, from riding her. I trusted her with my heart and life. She knew me in ways no human could. When on her back our energy fields become one. I could never hide my feelings from her, she always knew what my heart didn’t always want my head to know. Chris knew things about me no human could see. She judged none of it.
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If you have ever had an animal that went missing,even for a few minutes, you have experienced the many emotions that take over.
Finding lost animals is wrought with fear, anxiety, panic and lack of control.

If the animal has escaped to go out on a jaunt it could include joy on their side not on yours. There are as many variables, emotions, and situations as there are animals.

We as the human know the inherent dangers of what could happen. They on the other hand, such as in the case of a Beagle, may be just following a scent. Something they were bred to do, unaware of the dangers that might surround them.
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— Anonymous

Owners of dogs have noticed that, if you provide a dog with food, water, shelter and affection, they will think you are god. Whereas owners of cats are compelled to realize that, if you provide a cat with food, water, shelter and affection, they draw the conclusion that they are gods.
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Charlie, the main feline of this tail, lived with my aunt for many years. Coming in a long line of very large yellow cats my aunt had in her life, all named Charlie, he was of indeterminate age in the records. The Charlie this tale is about was the last my aunt would have on this earth. . My matante and Charlie lived together for many years, always sharing their daily meals. My aunt holding the food in her hand, and Charlie obligingly eating it. They shared an interesting diet. what my Aunt ate, Charlie ate. The selection was large and varied, donuts to water chestnuts, could be found on the menu. Their favorite delectable delight, unanimously voted upon, was most assuredly pepperoni. Hardly a balanced diet for a cat. But both were full and happy, Charlie not being your normal cat. After all, this feline, ALWAYS got what he wanted. Charles Persistent T Cat being his full name.

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These were the words of wisdom that my dog Moxie, originally known as Noni, spoke to me well into our relationship. Moxie was a
Portuguese Water Dog (PWD). What set her apart was that she was born with everything the breed didn’t want. She was improperly coated, had short legs, and a unique head. Some felt she was an embarrassment to the breed and should be euthanized. 

I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.
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What language do you use with yourself throughout your life? Is it one based in uncertainty and imperfection? Or, ever growing trust in self?

Wanting and Choosing are Two Different Things
Universal energy does not see wanting something as choosing something. It responds to “wanting” by remaining in a state of wanting.

Implied Additional Meaning
Filling your request with negative connotations will not get you what you desire.

Statements such as “Universe, I don’t want to live in lack. I don’t want be alone, anymore. I am tired of being sick; I don’t want to feel this way anymore” hold implied meaning of what you believe to be true. There is no room for more than one meaning. Your belief, and the feeling attached to it, will always trump, win, and create your reality.
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