That We Can Love is The Gift

  • By Karen Nowak
  • 03 Feb, 2016

The Who Need Not Be Judged

I sat next to a lovely soul named Joan, on one leg of the flight home from the Dominican Republic several days ago. We talked about many thing,  she about her grown daughters and I about my horses.

At one point she said to me “Imagine the love you have for your horses and multiply it by a million. That is how you would feel if you had children.” The sentiment came from her heart, her perspective.

I did, I imagined it and didn’t find love for my horses less than, just different.

In the past I might have judged what she was saying and felt the need to defend to her that I too would die for, my horses, as she would for her children.

There is room in this world for different perspectives to live harmoniously. Respecting what she holds in her heart without having to “make”her see as I do was yet another blessing I received on our trip.

I am proud I love my girls as I do. I do not need others to understand it. Love knows no boundaries. Others may not understand it if they have never experienced being atop a being with such a magnificent heart.

If I judge my love for my horses as less than a mother’s love for her child, I myself am comparing simply because society has taught us to live in a better and/or less than world.
What if instead of measuring and comparing, society simply viewed love as love. No quantifying, no evaluating, no assessing where it fits in the scale of WHAT and WHO is acceptable to love, purely.

I am not filling a space within me that was purportedly created because I chose not to have children this lifetime. I am not victim to filling an emptiness.

Love is Love. I chose to experience and express love through the purity of love with my animals. I am very full with the experience and would not trade it for anything.

I love each of my animals differently.

Not having children I can only comment on my life as it is.

Love is many things, and expressed in infinitesimal ways. One not better or worse than the other, just different.

I am grateful I live in a world that is beginning to understand the many facets of love.
I love my nephews with the fierceness of a momma bear. My two sisters are in my blood with a deep and abiding love. My husband has yet another love that is only for him. My parents are held in my heart in their own special way for they are now on the other side of the veil. Friends I would do anything for because of the love I have for them are a part of me also. All my animals are in my heart in different ways.

I hand a level of trust to my horses that transcends words. I trust them literally with my life, not only my heart. 

Riding my Morgan mare Brandy, for 23 years she knows me well and I her. She trusts me with her life. Annie and Butter are still finding their way to that. The love is no less, just different.

My horses know me in a way no human ever has, or will.

Yes, I have heard “It’s only a horse” as I grieved the loss of my first born. Even then I understood it was lack of understanding on the part of the individual who said it.

Not everyone will be compassionate in the understanding of my love. How I am in relation to their perspective would only harm me if I didn’t respect their right to it.
I thought long and hard about this blog. I skirt close to sounding as if I am justifying. I use the only language at my disposal. My intent is pure in writing this and comes from an expanded understanding of love, one without judgment. Love simply is.

The gift, if we choose to accept it, is that we can experience love without filters or judgement.

Whether for a human or an animal love is love. Each embodiment of that purity is wonderfully unique.

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physical beings. Traditional medicine addresses physical symptoms. Alternative modalities encompass the mental and emotional aspects that present themselves in the body as imbalances, known as diseases.
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When I was asked that question I thought back to the death my horse, Chris, to find the answer.

Her death had left me emotionally devastated. I wasn’t aware of all she had been in my life. Without conditions. The hurt seemed stronger than losing humans I had been close to. It wasn’t until the loss of my parents, that I was able to experience the difference.

Only then could I understand it was judgments I made, and the perspective I took that kept me in emotional pain about the difference.

Chris and I had come together at a pivotal time of personal growth and change. No human knew how insecure I felt on the inside during that time of my life.

I matured in many ways on her back. She had my heart and supported me, as I matured into an adult with a federal job and a mortgage.

I became more confident in many areas of my life, from riding her. I trusted her with my heart and life. She knew me in ways no human could. When on her back our energy fields become one. I could never hide my feelings from her, she always knew what my heart didn’t always want my head to know. Chris knew things about me no human could see. She judged none of it.
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Finding lost animals is wrought with fear, anxiety, panic and lack of control.

If the animal has escaped to go out on a jaunt it could include joy on their side not on yours. There are as many variables, emotions, and situations as there are animals.

We as the human know the inherent dangers of what could happen. They on the other hand, such as in the case of a Beagle, may be just following a scent. Something they were bred to do, unaware of the dangers that might surround them.
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I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.
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By Karen Nowak 11 Jul, 2017
The article I started here handed me an unexpected opportunity. It gifted me a very personal opportunity to evolve. My hope is it stimulates you in ways that bless you deeply.
By Karen Nowak 13 Feb, 2017
 Answering this question honestly, and changing yourapproach if necessary, contributes to you building a well-rounded health-care plan for your animal. Waiting until an illness or disease arises places you in a position of reacting, and not in the optimum mind-set to make informed decisions based on research. Creating a holistic approach involves incorporating the concept that both you and your animal are more than just
physical beings. Traditional medicine addresses physical symptoms. Alternative modalities encompass the mental and emotional aspects that present themselves in the body as imbalances, known as diseases.
By Karen Nowak 17 Oct, 2016
I am often asked the question “Why does losing my cat (dog, horse etc) hurt worse than losing humans in my life? I feel guilty because it hurts more.”

When I was asked that question I thought back to the death my horse, Chris, to find the answer.

Her death had left me emotionally devastated. I wasn’t aware of all she had been in my life. Without conditions. The hurt seemed stronger than losing humans I had been close to. It wasn’t until the loss of my parents, that I was able to experience the difference.

Only then could I understand it was judgments I made, and the perspective I took that kept me in emotional pain about the difference.

Chris and I had come together at a pivotal time of personal growth and change. No human knew how insecure I felt on the inside during that time of my life.

I matured in many ways on her back. She had my heart and supported me, as I matured into an adult with a federal job and a mortgage.

I became more confident in many areas of my life, from riding her. I trusted her with my heart and life. She knew me in ways no human could. When on her back our energy fields become one. I could never hide my feelings from her, she always knew what my heart didn’t always want my head to know. Chris knew things about me no human could see. She judged none of it.
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If you have ever had an animal that went missing,even for a few minutes, you have experienced the many emotions that take over.
Finding lost animals is wrought with fear, anxiety, panic and lack of control.

If the animal has escaped to go out on a jaunt it could include joy on their side not on yours. There are as many variables, emotions, and situations as there are animals.

We as the human know the inherent dangers of what could happen. They on the other hand, such as in the case of a Beagle, may be just following a scent. Something they were bred to do, unaware of the dangers that might surround them.
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Rocky and Mia,  brother and sister Puggles, have been at Freedom Reins for about a month now.

Understanding their new life has come at their own pace. Life changed dramatically, the day they were surrendered to the shelter in St Maries ID. That day did not make them victims.
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Healing yourself, not blaming the outside world, clearing up your language of negativity in all thoughts, forgiving yourself, taking responsibility for what you have created, not judging what you have created, just to name a few are part of transformation to a higher vibration of self. These and many others are imperative to moving into the life you desire.

Healing and balancing your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical bodies is also crucial at this time of unprecedented change.
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Thousands of years ago, cats were worshipped as gods. Cats have never forgotten this.
— Anonymous

Owners of dogs have noticed that, if you provide a dog with food, water, shelter and affection, they will think you are god. Whereas owners of cats are compelled to realize that, if you provide a cat with food, water, shelter and affection, they draw the conclusion that they are gods.
―Christopher Hitchens, The Portable Atheist: Essential Readings for the Nonbeliever
By Karen Nowak 20 May, 2016

Some will say this is a faery tale, but being about a very real feline, who shall we say does not embody the demure attributes of a faery, It, is simply, a Tale of a Tail.

Charlie, the main feline of this tail, lived with my aunt for many years. Coming in a long line of very large yellow cats my aunt had in her life, all named Charlie, he was of indeterminate age in the records. The Charlie this tale is about was the last my aunt would have on this earth. . My matante and Charlie lived together for many years, always sharing their daily meals. My aunt holding the food in her hand, and Charlie obligingly eating it. They shared an interesting diet. what my Aunt ate, Charlie ate. The selection was large and varied, donuts to water chestnuts, could be found on the menu. Their favorite delectable delight, unanimously voted upon, was most assuredly pepperoni. Hardly a balanced diet for a cat. But both were full and happy, Charlie not being your normal cat. After all, this feline, ALWAYS got what he wanted. Charles Persistent T Cat being his full name.

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These were the words of wisdom that my dog Moxie, originally known as Noni, spoke to me well into our relationship. Moxie was a
Portuguese Water Dog (PWD). What set her apart was that she was born with everything the breed didn’t want. She was improperly coated, had short legs, and a unique head. Some felt she was an embarrassment to the breed and should be euthanized. 

I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.
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What language do you use with yourself throughout your life? Is it one based in uncertainty and imperfection? Or, ever growing trust in self?

Wanting and Choosing are Two Different Things
Universal energy does not see wanting something as choosing something. It responds to “wanting” by remaining in a state of wanting.

Implied Additional Meaning
Filling your request with negative connotations will not get you what you desire.

Statements such as “Universe, I don’t want to live in lack. I don’t want be alone, anymore. I am tired of being sick; I don’t want to feel this way anymore” hold implied meaning of what you believe to be true. There is no room for more than one meaning. Your belief, and the feeling attached to it, will always trump, win, and create your reality.
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