The Leader of the Pack!

  • By Karen Nowak
  • 19 Oct, 2015

Starting Your New Dog Off on the “Right Paw” 

Making the most of the first few days of life with your new dog can avoid undesirable behavior in the future. The first and most important thing to remember is, you’re setting a precedent for future behavior from the moment your dog walks into your home.

To them you are the new pack. New litter-mates. Dogs quickly read how the pack is set up. You being the “leader of the pack” needs to be clear from the start. If you don’t take responsibility for your role in the relationship, a dog will take the opportunity for you.

Right now love and affection are important but leadership is crucial, no matter the breed of dog. Setting up positive dynamics from the start gives a dog a sense of security.

Pressure is taken off a traumatized dog when the human is the clear leader. If you feel bad for your dog, you are sending a message they don’t understand. They just sense something is wrong. Be understanding in your approach; give them the sense of order they thrive on.

Alone Time

Your dog will most likely be alone during its lifetime. Spending time together during the first days with them is very important. But so is introducing alone time in a safe environment. Do this regularly,building to when you will be gone all day.

Your language and intent count. “I will be right back. I promise. Your safe” or any other language that you are trying to reassure them about this bad thing of being left alone does the oppo- site. They take your lead in seeing this as a bad thing.

Approaching separation as part of your routine makes it easier when established from the get go. WE contribute to what they grow to find acceptable. We feed separation anxiety when anxious ourselves. There is no room for guilt.

Saying, “Hi, I’m home!” like it’s the most natural thing in the world from day one is important. Remember you are setting up it being natural for you to come and go. In older and rescue animals, as well as puppies and kittens, flower essences will help ease them into time alone.

Remember they will get through these first few days. Your confidence is important. It is hard to listen to a puppy cry or see your dog sad because you are leaving.
It is also important how you handle it.

It is natural for them to bealone at times. Not giving in through word or deed, is being loving. It contributes to creating and emotionally balanced adult dog.

Rescue Dogs

First and foremost remember: It was an experience they went through, not who they are. They are with you now and unless you continue abusing them, they are NOT AN ABUSED ANIMAL in the present. Your dog will let whatever they are able to go, if you do.

Referring to them as your “rescue and/or abused dog” keeps alive that you feel sorry for them and want others to also. Again, it was an experience they went through, not who they are.

Letting the past go creates a space for love and security to thrive. Telling an animal they are fine now and trying to make up for their past, sends a message that they don’t understand.

They will, in their own time, open their hearts to feeling your love. You can’t reassure them into feeling love. You can only continue to feel it and let them find it on their own.

Be gentle with them, be compassionate, but don’t enable them by keeping something alive that is no longer happening. Set  boundaries like you would for any other dog. Build over time being alone, in a safe and secure environment, same as any other dog.

The only way to change what they have known is to get through those first months and maybe years while they, in their own wisdom, figure it out. Believe in them; love them. But don’t victimize them.

Alternative healing and flower essences can help an animal that has had traumatic experiences. The sooner you see, feel, and treat them as a happy, healthy, emotionally whole dog the sooner they feel, and begin to act like one.

Shift Your Perspective

Seeing the dog only from a human perspective leaves a lot for the dog to figure out on its own. Many do. And, get creative in what they see acceptable in your home. It isn’t as hard as it sounds. You are meant to be the head dog in their eyes. But you have to see yourself that way and behave accordingly.

A good leader isn’t harsh, but reprimands, sets clear boundaries is loving and kind. Someone your dog wants to be with. A good leader will not feel guilty for a clear reprimand thinking they have hurt the dogs feelings. That isn’t how it works in the pack.

Points To Remember

Leadership

Be pack leader and take responsibility for your role in the relationship.

Lots of Exercise

Ensure your dog receives enough exercise for their energy level. It’s a stress reliever.

Set Clear Boundaries

Use positive reinforcement, divert from unwanted behavior. Praise reinforces the behavior you want. Reprimand only if needed.

Safe Space When Left Alone

Use a crate, single room, outside run etc. Too much too soon can be overwhelming leading to inappropriate release of stress.

Research Pack Behavior

  It is how your dog processes information . You are their new pack. Establish your position from day one.

Establish Your Position in the Pack Immediately: 

 No matter how cute they are they all have the ability to use aggression to get what they want. It could save someone from being hurt.

Following these guidelines you lay a solid foundation for your relationship to flourish and your dog to be secure, no matter their background. Strong leadership and rank in the pack matters .


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Her death had left me emotionally devastated. I wasn’t aware of all she had been in my life. Without conditions. The hurt seemed stronger than losing humans I had been close to. It wasn’t until the loss of my parents, that I was able to experience the difference.

Only then could I understand it was judgments I made, and the perspective I took that kept me in emotional pain about the difference.

Chris and I had come together at a pivotal time of personal growth and change. No human knew how insecure I felt on the inside during that time of my life.

I matured in many ways on her back. She had my heart and supported me, as I matured into an adult with a federal job and a mortgage.

I became more confident in many areas of my life, from riding her. I trusted her with my heart and life. She knew me in ways no human could. When on her back our energy fields become one. I could never hide my feelings from her, she always knew what my heart didn’t always want my head to know. Chris knew things about me no human could see. She judged none of it.
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Finding lost animals is wrought with fear, anxiety, panic and lack of control.

If the animal has escaped to go out on a jaunt it could include joy on their side not on yours. There are as many variables, emotions, and situations as there are animals.

We as the human know the inherent dangers of what could happen. They on the other hand, such as in the case of a Beagle, may be just following a scent. Something they were bred to do, unaware of the dangers that might surround them.
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I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.
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 Answering this question honestly, and changing yourapproach if necessary, contributes to you building a well-rounded health-care plan for your animal. Waiting until an illness or disease arises places you in a position of reacting, and not in the optimum mind-set to make informed decisions based on research. Creating a holistic approach involves incorporating the concept that both you and your animal are more than just
physical beings. Traditional medicine addresses physical symptoms. Alternative modalities encompass the mental and emotional aspects that present themselves in the body as imbalances, known as diseases.
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When I was asked that question I thought back to the death my horse, Chris, to find the answer.

Her death had left me emotionally devastated. I wasn’t aware of all she had been in my life. Without conditions. The hurt seemed stronger than losing humans I had been close to. It wasn’t until the loss of my parents, that I was able to experience the difference.

Only then could I understand it was judgments I made, and the perspective I took that kept me in emotional pain about the difference.

Chris and I had come together at a pivotal time of personal growth and change. No human knew how insecure I felt on the inside during that time of my life.

I matured in many ways on her back. She had my heart and supported me, as I matured into an adult with a federal job and a mortgage.

I became more confident in many areas of my life, from riding her. I trusted her with my heart and life. She knew me in ways no human could. When on her back our energy fields become one. I could never hide my feelings from her, she always knew what my heart didn’t always want my head to know. Chris knew things about me no human could see. She judged none of it.
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If you have ever had an animal that went missing,even for a few minutes, you have experienced the many emotions that take over.
Finding lost animals is wrought with fear, anxiety, panic and lack of control.

If the animal has escaped to go out on a jaunt it could include joy on their side not on yours. There are as many variables, emotions, and situations as there are animals.

We as the human know the inherent dangers of what could happen. They on the other hand, such as in the case of a Beagle, may be just following a scent. Something they were bred to do, unaware of the dangers that might surround them.
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Rocky and Mia,  brother and sister Puggles, have been at Freedom Reins for about a month now.

Understanding their new life has come at their own pace. Life changed dramatically, the day they were surrendered to the shelter in St Maries ID. That day did not make them victims.
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Healing yourself, not blaming the outside world, clearing up your language of negativity in all thoughts, forgiving yourself, taking responsibility for what you have created, not judging what you have created, just to name a few are part of transformation to a higher vibration of self. These and many others are imperative to moving into the life you desire.

Healing and balancing your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical bodies is also crucial at this time of unprecedented change.
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Thousands of years ago, cats were worshipped as gods. Cats have never forgotten this.
— Anonymous

Owners of dogs have noticed that, if you provide a dog with food, water, shelter and affection, they will think you are god. Whereas owners of cats are compelled to realize that, if you provide a cat with food, water, shelter and affection, they draw the conclusion that they are gods.
―Christopher Hitchens, The Portable Atheist: Essential Readings for the Nonbeliever
By Karen Nowak 20 May, 2016

Some will say this is a faery tale, but being about a very real feline, who shall we say does not embody the demure attributes of a faery, It, is simply, a Tale of a Tail.

Charlie, the main feline of this tail, lived with my aunt for many years. Coming in a long line of very large yellow cats my aunt had in her life, all named Charlie, he was of indeterminate age in the records. The Charlie this tale is about was the last my aunt would have on this earth. . My matante and Charlie lived together for many years, always sharing their daily meals. My aunt holding the food in her hand, and Charlie obligingly eating it. They shared an interesting diet. what my Aunt ate, Charlie ate. The selection was large and varied, donuts to water chestnuts, could be found on the menu. Their favorite delectable delight, unanimously voted upon, was most assuredly pepperoni. Hardly a balanced diet for a cat. But both were full and happy, Charlie not being your normal cat. After all, this feline, ALWAYS got what he wanted. Charles Persistent T Cat being his full name.

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These were the words of wisdom that my dog Moxie, originally known as Noni, spoke to me well into our relationship. Moxie was a
Portuguese Water Dog (PWD). What set her apart was that she was born with everything the breed didn’t want. She was improperly coated, had short legs, and a unique head. Some felt she was an embarrassment to the breed and should be euthanized. 

I was living in WoodstockValley, CT when I received the call from the PWD Rescue that they had a female they wanted to place that had “issues,” I didn’t let it deter me. My other PWD had personality to spare and wefelt he would like a companion,as our other dog was very old.
By Karen Nowak 05 Apr, 2016
What language do you use with yourself throughout your life? Is it one based in uncertainty and imperfection? Or, ever growing trust in self?

Wanting and Choosing are Two Different Things
Universal energy does not see wanting something as choosing something. It responds to “wanting” by remaining in a state of wanting.

Implied Additional Meaning
Filling your request with negative connotations will not get you what you desire.

Statements such as “Universe, I don’t want to live in lack. I don’t want be alone, anymore. I am tired of being sick; I don’t want to feel this way anymore” hold implied meaning of what you believe to be true. There is no room for more than one meaning. Your belief, and the feeling attached to it, will always trump, win, and create your reality.
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Do you find yourself saying any of these things or variations thereof when you feel stuck? Often not even knowing the reason.

" Oh, I feel so stuck"
I am so stuck"
I'm stuck and I can't seem to move out of being stuck"

And a million other variations on STUCK, IMMOVABLE energy.
More Posts
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