Tell It Like It Is 

  • By Karen Nowak
  • 11 Feb, 2016

The Unconditional Truth

Tell It Like It Is

Brandy, my Morgan mare has never minced words with me or anyone else. She is as straightforward as they come.

She can size up a person or situation in a heartbeat and immediately tell you her opinion on it. There’s no lag time in this girl’s response.

Horses read our energy long before we get close. Many have learned to shut out, cope, or even be okay with what a human brings along to interactions with them.

None of which is Brandy. She speaks her mind.

Many years back a friend had been riding Brandy on a regular basis. We had planned to go riding, expecting things to be as they always had. They were not that day. I felt something was different from the moment my friend arrived. I just couldn’t identify what it was. But Brandy could. She wouldn’t let the woman near her for love or money. This was very unusual behavior between them.

It would have been easy to blame her behavior on not wanting to go or a myriad of other reasons. Knowing my girl as I did and her basically shouting at me to hear what she was saying, I asked what was going on.

Her response was “You do it”. Not exactly the answer to my question but I had learned to trust what I heard from her. I knew I would either figure it out or she would tell me more.

Up until that point I had been getting my other horse Chris ready to go.I loaded Chris in the trailer and went and asked my friend if I could try. Brandy was fine with me. I haltered her and in the trailer she went.

In the half hour drive to our destination it had become very clear my friend was holding a lot of emotion in, and trying, unsuccessfully, to ignore it. I asked her if there was something going on in her life that she was worried about. I remained silent as she told me of some upcoming physical test she was worried about. I continued to listen as she released fear of the test and outcome.

We arrived at our destination both curious how Brandy would be. We would have switched horses if necessary. I unloaded both horses. I asked Brandy what she wanted. She said my friend could ride her now because she had let go of what she was holding.

After that Brandy was her normal self.

Tell It Like It Is

Putting A Hoof Down

There have been many occasions that Brandy put her hoof down about what she was willing to carry. On several occasions she told me to get rid of the crap I insisted on holding on too with a death grip, before I even consider riding her.

It was many years later after I had moved to Montana from New England that she looked at me and said “ Don’t ask me to carry you emotionally. I won’t do it”.

I had depended on her heavily for helping me through all the turmoil of moving 2500 miles from friends and family. I had already begun to dread the day she would be gone from my life. Brandy told me “change that” your wasting time.

It is then she taught me to be responsible for myself, my emotions. They weren’t hers to carry.

That was the second time I had heard a similar message. After the passing of my mare Chris she told me she “couldn’t carry me anymore” emotionally that is. I only heard then what I was ready for. Chris had facilitated the first crack in my armor.  

Brandy made sure I took it off. She would accept no less.

It wasn’t easy at the start and sometimes can still be tough. I learned that to place blame, emotions, and or our life on anyone else prevented me and anyone involved from BEING WHOLE.

An opinionated Morgan has taught me to be aware of what I bring to my relationship with anyone. Am I always successful in recognizing it from the start? No.

I can rest assured though Brandy will tell me if she’s involved.

Thanks to her I am working on recognizing the more subtle things I bring to Butternut and Annie that they don't so easily tell me.  Butter you have to watch for it, she is a horse of few words. Annie I am learning her special dialect in what she is communicating.

Tell It Like It Is

How do your animals communicate? What are they telling you?

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My hope and intention is to share how incorporating both allopathic veterinary care and other alternative modalities saved us both.

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